The Inspiring Story of a Mother's Unwavering Decision to Embrace Her Baby's Black Birthmark

   

In 2016, Eboy and Jamie, a couple both aged 34, crossed paths and their journey together began. They now have a beautiful three-year-old son named Harley, who brings immense joy to their lives. Jamie also has a daughter named Hollie Pie from a previous relationship, adding another layer of love to their family dynamic.

 In September 2020, their family grew even more as they welcomed their precious bundle of joy, Harper, weighing a healthy 8 pounds and 4 ounces. Together, they form a close-knit and loving small family, cherishing each precious moment they share.

On the left side of her face and neck, little Harper was born with a birthmark, which occurs in 1 in 20,000 births. Kiig, Eboy, and Jamie, the devoted parents of Harper, were rendered speechless when they first saw the large birthmark spanning the majority of her face. They were both amazed and concerned about how others would regard her as she aged.

Eboy, 23, from Huddersfield, Yorkshire, stated, “The birthmark was a huge shock, and it saddens me to consider how Harper may be regarded as she matures. Humans can be so vicious.” 

Regardless of your appearance, you will always be your parents’ child, their angel, and the embodiment of their affection. Despite their initial reservations, Harper’s parents declined surgery to allow her to make her own decisions as she grew older, stating that “it made her even more beautiful.” Her siblings refer to it as her’special mark,’ and we concur; Harper is indeed unique. With her birthmark, she becomes more attractive every day, and we make sure to tell her that every day.

Eboy claims that Harper was born via caesarean section. Jamie told me after giving birth, “She has a very large birthmark on her face.” “I was speechless as soon as I saw her. I could not believe that she concealed half of her visage. I believe I was in shock at the time, so I did not settle down and cry for a very long time, perhaps two weeks. I feel more sorry for Harper and any future prejudices she may encounter than for myself.” 

The therapist informed the family that the birthmark was a melanocytic naevus cogenital and that a significant facial birthmark occurs in only one in 20,000 births.

Fortunately, it is just a birthmark, and although Harper will require additional testing, it is unlikely to pose a serious health concern. They were given the option of surgically removing the birthmark, a procedure that would require a skin graft and would likely be costly and leave scarring.

Since her birth, the birthmark has diminished slightly, but it will never completely disappear, according to Eboy. We decided to postpone Harper’s surgery until she is old enough to make her own decision. It is her responsibility to make this difficult decision. 

As our child matures, we will leave all decisions to him out of reverence for his judgement. Nevertheless, you are a wonderful addition to the lives of this small family. Our children have always loved each other, and Eboy and I are happier than ever to observe their growth and acceptance of one another