I came out as transgender and non-binary 9 years ago when I turned 25. Before that, I didn't want to be a man, but I always imagined what I would look like with flat breasts.
I don't hate my body, I just don't feel completely comfortable in it.
Privileges after transgender
At 25, I realized I was more comfortable identifying as transgender. So I started medical intervention and took testosterone. Eight months later, I had a mastectomy.
After the transition, I found myself living a truer version of myself. During that time, I was fortunate to always have the support of my family.
In parallel with my transition, I studied for a degree in child education and development.
My brother gave birth to a baby girl. My brother 1
Danny became pregnant with his first child at the age of 33.
Having worked as a nanny before, I realized I was making an extra $10 an hour as a transgender nanny. I also started working for famous families and traveling all over the world.
Those were the obvious perks after I switched.
I identify as a transgender man, not a man. However, many friends around me still see me as a transgender gay man.
Therefore, I am more open on social media to be seen as I am.
Having a baby is a wonderful thing
Before transgender, I always knew that I wanted to have at least one child. Often, during the transition, people can freeze their eggs.
I also imagined how I would feed my baby when I had my mastectomy. However, it needs to be done and I don't regret it at all.
I want to raise children with my partner, but that person hasn't appeared yet. So I became a single parent.
On April 17, 2020, I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant. I just happened to know this when I went to the hospital to check if I had SARS-CoV-2.
I was fortunate to be cured of Covid-19 but suffered from severe morning sickness. Buried at home during the pandemic, I alone watched my belly grow every day.
Despite everything, it was the best experience I've ever had.
I stopped using testosterone for 1 year while pregnant with my son Wilder. It feels like body parts from the past visit. Although I feel a little uncomfortable at times, everything is fine.
My brother gave birth to a baby girl. My brother 2
Danny enhances community understanding of transgender life through social media.
After 10 hours of painful labor in the support of midwives, I actually gave birth to a baby. This is great, but also has many challenges.
Wilder was not breathing at first and needed help. At one point, I thought I had to go to the hospital right away. I lost a lot of blood so I needed injections to help contract the uterus and stop the bleeding.
After giving birth, I openly shared my pregnancy on social media to inspire other transgender and non-binary people. That is not an easy thing.
People usually only see positive comments on my profile because there are 5 people who help me moderate and delete hundreds of hate comments, death threats every day. However, I still want my story to be known.
Being a parent is great, but it comes with more challenges than I expected. During the first 2 weeks after giving birth, my parents came to support. But now that they are no longer here, struggling alone is quite exhausting.
However exhausted I was, I stayed up all night just to watch Wilder sleep. Since having children, I have become stronger and see how beautiful life is.
